10 Essentials for Setting-Up Extraordinary Grandparenting
So You Can Step-Forward with Enthusiasm, Appreciation, and Grace
This article is #7 in the series about CoCreating the Well-Living Community for Grandparents and Grandkids.
The article is framed like a checklist. Please assign appropriate time and effort to unpack it to realize your Extraordinary Grandparenting Approach.
Here are the 10 Essentials for Setting-Up
Your Grandparenting Approach
1)) Know yourself to know your grandkids
Who are you?
Who are you to be grandparenting?
Reflect on your lived experience — your legacy story
2)) Clarify the meaning of the terms grandparent and grandparenting
Check your definition with your kin, especially your children (the parents)
Ask yourself: What would grandparenting look and feel like if it were easy?
Ask yourself: When grandparenting, what am I wanting to take care of?
3)) Use reflection-in and reflection-on your approach to grandparenting
Determine ways to improve, focus, and strengthen your grandparenting
Review your assignment of time, effort, and money to grandparenting
4)) Outline your grandparenting approach
- remember your experiences of grandparents
- discuss your role as a grandparent with your children (the parents of your grandchildren)
- identify your preferred approach because of your needs, wants, and desires in light of #1 and #2
- consolidate your learning from #1, #2, and #3 to frame your considered approach
- discuss your #4 approach with your children in light of number #2
- ask your grandkids about the ways and means they want to interact with you
- discuss #6 insights in light of #5
- review your approach in light of the two questions in 1))
- use your intuition and logical reasoning to review #1 through #8
- Celebrate where you are with the approach you have by enjoying your favorite drink
5)) Explore and discover your personal learning-for-knowing approach
6)) Explore and discover your preferred educating approach
7)) Value your grandchildren’s learning-for-knowing approach in terms of their growth and development
8)) Assess who influences your grandchildren
- from a kinship perspective — family dynamics
- from friends of the family perspective
- from direct social (sports, regularly scheduled) groupings with whom the grandchildren interact
- from indirect social (irregularly scheduled) groupings with whom the grandchildren interact
- from the media channels from which the grandchildren listen, read, watch
- from the grandchildren’s action — behaviors — consequences you witness
- from the experience-based stories the grandkids share with you
9)) Gather a Council of Elders outside your kinship and direct friends with whom you will check and balance your approach
1)) Use a meaningful pattern recognition lens to review #1 through #9 as a whole
Consider the “direct” version of the lens — face to face
Consider the “indirect” version of the lens — sending a gift/present by courier
Remain alert to what you want to continue, stop, start or add, alter, delete as you move through the statements above
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WELLth Movement’s intention is to guide, support, and celebrate Grandparents — Grandchildren’s — involvement with Nature (Trees).
Having read the article — consider these questions:
So What? What Else? Now What?
Can you offer something — to expand — to extend this article?
In the weeks and months to follow, I/you/we can help grandparents who step forward to improve, focus, and strengthen the co-creation of the Well-Living Community — a community platform of programs and projects, and processes and products grandparents (and grandchildren) can access to support “grandparenting in/with the natural world”.
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